The Spank Your Man eBook Collection

Over the years I had so many requests to write a book from my unique perspective. A book not for the men who share this desire, but for the women who love them.

With all the content out there on the Web about f/m domestic discipline, it seems that there is very little that speaks to a vanilla girlfriend or wife in a way that is not somehow ... creepy. There, I've said it. If it's not a bunch of bored barely-legal young ladies giggling while they watch a dominatrix beat some poor chap, it's a troupe of June Cleavers armed with contracts guaranteed to turn their husbands into their sons.

There MUST be something in between. Somebody needs to write an actual book that a man could give to the woman in his life that won't scare the bejeezus out of her! Right?

Well, I did. I've been a professional writer in the real world who happens to love men and have a knack for understanding them, so why not aim that expertise in this direction.

Written for your vanilla girlfriend or wife, I penned Spanking the Male Mind to explain your need to her in a fun, down-to-earth way that's surprisingly human, literate and, dare I say it, sane.

Then, for once this gal is ready to give it a try, I pulled out all the stops and wrote the ultimate illustrated guide, How to Spank Your Man, that inspired this reader to write me,

"I found your book exceptionally helpful - a very lighthearted, non-intimidating, and eminently practical manual to gently introduce a woman to an activity otherwise fraught with embarrassment and mystery.   I believe you have written the best (and maybe the only accessible) book for women on this topic. Thank you!"

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As I'm sure you all will attest, my fascination with this subject knows no equal and I’m told that my humor, candor and mainstream-style of writing is just what's needed to take away the "ick" factor and assure the little lady that once soundly spanked, her red-blooded, manly man will remain as straight and strong as the day is long. And, gosh, once she sees the wonderful benefits associated with putting her man over her knee, I’d venture to say that you fellas will be forced to carry your own portable pillows wherever you go from now on!

Spanking the Male Mind is a mainstream-style e-book is 75 pages of fascinating text and heartfelt testimonials, and is the culmination of all I've learned from our conversations, in-depth polling and my own personal experience. It attempts to explain the difference between BDSM and f/m spanking within a loving relationship.

Because of certain taboos around sexuality and experimentation, writing this meant basically re-inventing the whole language we use to describe what we like, how and why we like it.
Topics include:
  • Top Ten Spanking Benefits 
  • Spanking Lifestyle Choices 
  • What's in it for me? 
  • Oh so Trendy
  • What spanking is not!
  • BDSM vs. Discipline 
  • What is he thinking? 
  • Gender Wiring
Plus, the last chapter is filled with actual testimonials from couples who have been incorporating spanking into their lifestyle and love it.

Unlike many of the f/m spanking books on the market, this one stays away from the kinkier aspects and focuses on fun spanking as part of a loving relationship. Entertaining and enlightening, Spanking the Male Mind has all it takes to seduce a vanilla woman into giving it a go! (Then, lucky you, it’s time to buy a pillow and gift her with my illustrated hands-on guidebook, How To Spank Your Man!)

AND, even if you don't have a vanilla woman to give it to, readers have bought it and reported they find it fascinating and provocative, revealing the psychological and erotic underpinnings of this desire. So, don't wait until you have that special gal all lined up!

Once you've read it, please write a little review here and let me know your thoughts!


"This book is excellent. I am on my second read. You have made so many observations that I found applied to me and I never realized it! I shall be buying your next book as soon as it hits the computer. Thank you for all the hard work in creating a valuable insight into our particular state of mind.”

“I have read your book “Spanking the Male Mind” and have thoroughly enjoyed it. I even printed it out on very nice glossy paper so I could really enjoy it. It made me realize what a daunting task you had in front of you - to make this lifestyle appeal to as broad a spectrum of women as possible, without the luxury of talking to each of them one on one. I think you put forth enough of a “buffet of ideas and concepts” that hopefully many of them will serve themselves a heaping plateful.”

“You did a great job in getting into the guys' heads as far as what we are thinking. On many occasions, as my wife read the passages I had highlighted she asked me - "You really think that?" To which I would reply "yes". I know I would not have had the courage to articulate what I was thinking had it not been in print. (Go figure!)”

“I want to thank you for taking the time to put together such a great book ! I know I felt like you had read me mind as I read many of the passages in the book. I gave Spanking the Male Mind to my wife as a way to open up a dialogue on the topic of spanking with her. I took your advice in the book, and highlighted all the thoughts and/or statements which applied to me before giving it to my wife – that really helped focus the discussions. Since giving the book to my wife we have engaged in two spanking sessions to date. Although they were very good for me, my wife felt very awkward, which brings me to my next question --- when does How To Spank Your Man come out!”

“You hit the psychology and the need correctly. I like the way you explain the complex mix of sex and discipline… this is better than the DWC site. After reading this first book, I’ve decided to wait until your second book is published, and then give them both to my wife together. It will be her choice as to whether to read one, both, or neither, but I think it would be best to have both available together.”

“My wife loved your first book, Spanking the Male Mind. She said, "She has a gift for explaining men's complicated desires and motivations into simple strait forward relationship ideas that make sense." Your preview certainly suggest this even more. Thanks!”“I have the highest regard for the book you have produced. Not having seen or purchased an e-book before I am very impressed. We're now buying your follow up."

How To Spank Your Man is the ultimate, fully illustrated, HANDS-ON (heh, heh) guidebook that finally teaches the vanilla woman exactly how to tan your behind but good!

It weighs in at 180 pages of pure know-how peppered with 125 fun & naughty illustrations. YUP - one hundred and twenty-five original drawings inked & colored by little ol' me!

And it’s written in a fun, mainstream style from my own unique take on this whole phenomena, chock-full of top ten lists, do’s & don’ts and humorous sidebars (just like any book a gal would buy at Barnes and Noble.) But, unlike a book at Barnes & Noble, How To Spank Your Man also has lots of hot role-play scenarios, serious scoldings and awfully embarrassing positions woven into it. Oh MY. 

I know there are plenty of booklets out there on this subject, of the BDSM and Domestic Discipline persuasion, but, quite frankly, I have always felt they were a tad too fetishy to convince many of the vanilla-persuasion to give this pastime a "go". (Jeez, they turn ME off and you know I LOVE to turn a pale butt bright red. ) In my efforts to explain this to a traditional mindset, I have been scrupulous in my language and in the loving way I present the various aspects of spanking, leaving out some of the more kinky activities so as not to shock her.

I think that what my long-time readers enjoy is the very distinct down-to-earth niche I seem to have created in the f/m spanking realm that is all-inclusive and recognizes the sexual underpinnings of this whole darn pastime. Whether you crave erotic, fun, therapeutic, role-play and/or punishment spankings, all are presented here as wonderful additions to any caring relationship.

While the How To Spank Your Man’s stated purpose is to seduce the average woman into trying it with a truly open mind, we all know that you'll need to pore over it for your own, um, … edification (ahem). Even if you don’t have a romantic relationship going on at the moment I am SURE you will find it a hot read. And, just think, you’ll already have it on hand when that great gal walks into your life!

Chapters include:
  • How does this fit into our LIFESTYLE? 
  • WHEN do we do it? 
  • WHERE do we do it? 
  • How to ROLEPLAY! 
  • What do we WEAR 
  • What do we SAY? 
  • POSITION is everything! 
  • What do I spank him WITH? 
  • SWATTING for Beginners! 
  • What to do AFTER the SPANKING? 
  • OUCH is right! 
How To Spank Your Man basically contains everything I have learned about the honorable art of women spanking men and the fabulous benefits that come with it. That's why I feel it's my duty to share my formidable knowledge of this dear subject with ALL of womankind. My hope is that every woman who reads this will find her hidden inner spanker and every man who buys it will at last experience his secret desire!


"This book is a classic. If ever a spanking book deserves to be mainstream, this is it. I can see it at Barnes and Nobles a year from now. The great thing about it is it's a delight for us spanking aficionados, but also completely accessible to the general public. Once and for all this takes spanking out of the brown paper back Times Square sex bookstore world. A milestone. And the art is glorious. It includes one of my favorite fantasies. A bossy woman is standing behind me, arms akimbo, while I'm in a T-shirt that goes down only to my waist, BARE below. Delicious."

“This is the finest book in the spanking genre I've ever read - packed with great information, always leavened by humor, and tons of great illustrations. (I didn't count 'em, but I'll take your word that there's 125 of 'em!)”

“I just wanted to thank you for sending your latest book, How To Spank Your Man. Of course, I had to sit down and read it cover to cover (so to speak) right away. I loved it! I’m currently in the process of printing it out so that I can take it over to Kinko’s Copies. As soon as I have it printed and bound I will be presenting to my wife in hopes she will find inspiration within its covers. (Hopefully, the next time I send you an email on this topic, I will have to do it standing up!)"

“I just received my copy of How To Spank Your Man and it looks amazing to me. I can’t wait to pour over it! My wife and I have already begun to play with spanking a bit after reading your first book. I hope this one will help guide us further. Thanks again.”

“Many thanks for what has obviously been a labour of love. Love the illustrations!”

“I GOT IT! I have already browsed through it on the computer and I love it. I can't wait to print it in color on nice glossy paper and give it to me sweetie! You are the best!”

“It’s a great read - I am really enjoying it. I also got your first book. My wife said something recently that made me think she might like to read one of these. I will keep you posted on what happens.”

“I'd be hard-pressed to pick one favorite section of the How to Spank Your Man. But a favorite drawing - that's easy. It's the one that opens Chapter 10, and that also was previewed earlier here on the blog - a couple in amorous embrace, with the gentleman sporting a very red behind. Nothing better illustrates the intertwining of love and discipline.”